11. Bring consent out of the bedroom. I think part of the reason we have trouble drawing the line “it’s not okay to force someone into sexual activity” is that in many ways, forcing people to do things is part of our culture in general. Cut that shit out of your life. If someone doesn’t want to go to a party, try a new food, get up and dance, make small talk at the lunchtable—that’s their right. Stop the “aww c’mon” and “just this once” and the games where you playfully force someone to play along. Accept that no means no—all the time.
Holly over at The Pervocracy with an excellent 101 post on Consent Culture. Read the whole thing. (via notafraidofruins)
this is especially important to me, because I’ve noticed that when someone asks me to do something, and I say no, and they persist, I really really really dig in my heels and it becomes a matter of principle, and I used to think that was a problem
but no, it’s not a damn problem if I say no and keep saying no. my choices are mine and I will be damned if they are taken away from me or ignored
(Source: drst, via notafraidofruins)
